You Are Free to Fail {A Letter To Myself}



You are free to fail.


You are free to not meet the expectations you hold for yourself. LET THEM GO. You don’t have to be perfect, in fact you can’t and that’s ok.


You won’t be loved any less. It will not make you less beautiful or less important.


It’s ok if you don’t make it, if you never get there, if that thing never happens. Dreams are great to have but they don’t define you. They don’t make you. It’s the journey right, not the destination.


Truthfully it doesn’t matter. That thing that you are after, that you are working so hard to get will not fulfill you like you think it will.


The emptiness you feel, the fear that chokes you will not disappear when you reach that mark. It will still remain, it will linger on long after you have “succeeded.”


Your success cannot hold you, a person cannot fill what you are lacking. Numbers, likes, shares, comments, money are all fleeting anyway.


Why try so hard to obtain them?  |  What do you want out of life?


You are free to fail.


It doesn’t matter; these THINGS don’t matter. They have NO significance in the grand scheme of things. Look at the bigger picture.

Don’t get lost in the mess of life. Don’t get swept up in the current of lies, the torrent of emptiness that others allow themselves to sink in to.


You my dear are more precious than gold. You my dear are worth more than a thousand diamonds. You are more beautiful than flowers and more important than even the most successful, popular person.


But it has NOTHING to do with you. It has nothing to do with your character, it has nothing to do with your beauty, it has nothing to do with the actions you’ve committed or the success you have had.


Let go.


You my dear are all of these things by association because you have been bought, brought into a new life, promised into a new kingdom where truth is the banner flown, not the lies that you choose to believe.


This is WHY you are free to fail because you are no longer identified by what you can and cannot do. You are no longer measured by your success. You are no longer associated with things of this world, but with Him.


You are free to fail because He has already won.

You are free to fail because you do not have the last word.

You are free to fail because you are not in control.

You are free to fail because it’s not about you but about Him.



Fail. Succeed. Win. Loose. It doesn’t matter, just don’t forget whose you are and whom you belong to. This world has no name stronger than the one you have been given. Daughter. Redeemed. Spotless. Chosen. Loved. Beloved.


You are free to fail because He has have already won.



  1. Rosemarie Reiss says:

    You are wise beyond your years, Sarah! I was once a perfectionist, but life and the Lord have shown me a better and more fulfilling way to live my life. "Trust and obey, for there is no other way, to be happy in Jesus, than to TRUST and OBEY!". Bless you, my sister in Christ! Life is a struggle, but with Jesus, we are more than conquerors!
    Rosemarie R.

  2. Hi Sarah,
    I have been blessed by your writing! Thank you for your encouragement. Whenever I am measuring my worth by my performance, I lose my joy…but by resting in God’s unconditional love and knowing His strength is perfected in my weakness, my joy is restored and I remember it’s all about HIM.

    • Sarah says:

      Thank you so much Julie. I am so glad to hear Jesus using my words to encourage, that is my hope. It is all about Him!

  3. Dianne says:

    Dear Sarah, You are such a blessing ! I , too, always felt the need to be perfect until I realized that there is only one perfect Person and they nailed Him to a Cross. Despair and hopelessness are tools of the devil. He is never happier than when we are in the depths of despair or anger or hopelessness. And so I place all my worries , fears , and concerns in God’s hands, hope in His wisdom , pray ,and don’t worry. I refuse to allow the devil to drag me down to his level.

    • Sarah says:

      Dianne thank you! You are right, we are to just truth God placing all of our fear and worries in His hands.

  4. Deena says:

    How inspired I am to want more of His unconditional love. I feel like a mess right now, and I have been broken and bringing my past into the present. What a huge mess I have caused. I feel free by reading your letter. Nothing matters but Him and the way He has paid the price for my life. I need to let go and let Him.Thank God for your letter. -Amen.

    • Sarah says:

      Deena, I feel ya! Trust me, I wrote this letter to myself because I needed to hear these words. I am so glad that you feel freed by the letter. I pray God continues to help you find Freedom in Him.

  5. Amazing words and truths. You are a blessed writer that speaks the truths that need to be heard. Thank you so much for this.

    • Sarah says:

      Susan thank you. I feel really encouraged by your comment. I wish I could express how touched I feel by your words.

  6. Whitni says:

    I loved this article. Im 25 years old and I feel like a failure. I have been in college cor the last six years and thinga havent worked out. After reading this article, everything makes sense. Thanks for the encouragement!

  7. Tammy says:

    Wow! I really needed this devotion today. It Issa where I am at as a pastors wife.

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